Secret Romance

In order to love simply, it is necessary to know how to show love.

-- Fyodor Dostoyevsky

I love this quote. It reminds me of a previous note that I had written on Facebook about marriage and the whole concept of it. In today's society marriage is not viewed as a life long commmitment; in part due to the fact people go into marriage with the mentality "what can I get from this marriage".

The quote puts it quite simply: it is necessary to show love in order TO love! I completely agree with that. It goes with the age old saying, "do unto others as you would have done to you".

Keeping with the "show" love quote, now begins my reasoning for writing about this. Last month I ordered this secret romance package for James and I. It is a red heart tin that has 365 cards in it. Under each card is a secret act that you must do for your spouse. It ranges from every day practical things like "start his/her car for him/her on a cold morning" to more romantic things like "greet him/her with a lingering kiss after a long absence". Yes there are 365 cards in the tin, but James and I decided it would be more fun to do it this way: Every Sunday we alternate picking a card and sometime during the week we do what the card says. This way, we never know when it will happen and it gives us something to look forward to! 

I think little things like this are what helps us keep that mentality of "what can I ADD to this marriage instead of what can I GET from this marriage."